Pet Peeve.

This is a spin-off from my last entry.  My friend JJ once left the table during a conversation of guys-only talking about certain "tests" that they put women through on first dates to verify their qualities.  I wasn't nearly as offended as JJ but I did think that it was rather dumb.  For those who require a "test" to figure out a woman's qualities is just...dumb.

I propose an alternate solution if you really want to know if a person is quality.  And the basic deal is to look at how the person treats other people.  One of my greatest pet peeves is when a person can't even make the most basic of efforts to just greet someone.  Say hi.  Acknowledge a person's presence.  It ticks me off when you enter a room, and can't even manage a hello to the people in the room, much less the host (if it's a some sort of social function).  If it's because you're socially awkward I can sort of understand.  But mostly I think it's due to some sort of arrogance.

Chinese grandmas will point these sorts of things out.  I know because my po po does.  And you don't want to end on the wrong side of a grandma's favor.  But mostly (and in all seriousness), a quality person will value another person's presence.  Watch for this.  It might just negate the need for those dumb tests.